Monday, February 22, 2010

A Letter to My Children

Dear Children,

I am not incredibly concerned with your happiness. I AM concerned with teaching you to be grateful for what you have. I AM concerned that you learn to be content with what you have. I AM concerned with teaching you to work, to serve and love and be grateful.

Now cease and desist with whining about your friends that have iPods, Iphones, xBoxes, the fact that your friends don't have as many chores as you do and they get to do whatever they want whenever they want.

Look at what you have. Be grateful. That includes a 2 year old sister that thinks you are the best thing in the entire world, a 5 year old sister that puts YOUR dirty laundry in the hamper, a 6 year old brother that lets you hang him upside down and tickle him until he is purple in the face, a 9 year old brother that finds all the sweets in the house and normally shares, a 13 year old brother that will read books to you and a 14 year old brother that is learning to wash your dishes. It also includes a mom that has been at home for 15 years and a dad that is incredibly patient.

We have a warm house, wool socks and chocolate chip cookies. Be grateful. Be content. Remember, your happiness I'm not so worried about. It is fleeting.

Remember my goal is not please you. I want to shape you into what Heavenly Father wants you to become. And you just cannot see what you are supposed to be through your selfish, sullen, sarcastic, smart-*$% point of view.

And never, ever again say that the work your mother does around this home is worthless again.

Your Mama
AKA-the one who didn't harm you for saying what you did this morning but walked away and cried


Marie said...

(((HUGS))). The incredible amount of restraint not to harm them when they lash out with unreasonable, but painful words, is something you must continue to hold onto. They will do it often as they grow into young men and women. You are doing a great job with them, mom. We know they are given to us to shape, and that they are given the ability to make friends because that is not what we should be for them. Your friend is here if you need a virtual hug! Good job, momma. I hope your momma's heart heals quickly.

ScrappinCindy said...

Oh, Dana! I'm sending you a BIG hug and a virtual strawberry margarita (hush--non-alcoholic, of course!). They are great kids; keep up the good work. You can remind them that Scout & PinkOne don't have all those electronics either. And PinkOne will soon have chicks she is raising, so the work/chores will increase. Scout's already has--thanks to Emma his new puppy.

dawn said... are a great mom.

dawn said... are a great mom.


The days are so different. Instead of mess and homeschool teaching I have a DH working from home and quiet until 2:54 when #6 (who is 10)...